How to Have More Fun When You’re Out With Friends 🎉👏🏻👯
If you’re like me, you do this all the time. You go out with friends, and focus on only them. Only being with them. Only talking to them. Only them. Well what would happen if one night, you stopped focusing on them, and started to focus on others around you. Think about it like this; when you go out with a group of friends, you go to spend time together and have a good time, without them, you probably wouldn’t go out alone. As many people as I’ve met, I’ve only known far and few to go out to bars or clubs alone.
Or any social environment, really.
It’s time to make new friends, outside of the digital world. When is the last time you can say you met someone face to face in a random environment, and ended up becoming friends?
It’s easy to get caught up in our friend groups while we’re out in social settings. It’s the whole reason we even went out in the first place, to spend time with them and let loose, together. But, standing right in front of us, are new connections to be made. New people who are seeking friends, connections, and adventure. When I first moved to a new city, I started going to bars alone in an attempt to meet new people. I would sit at a booth and watch others in their friend groups converse with one another. I felt too awkward to approach a large group of people alone, because let’s be real, it’s intimidating, but sometimes I got lucky enough to spot other people who were alone or seeking new connections outside of their friend group.
When we don’t venture out and meet new people, we may be stunting our own personal growth by surrounding ourselves in familiar settings. It’s good to be comfortable, but it’s not always good for you. New friends bring new insights, ways of thinking, and different hobbies to share with you. If we all only stuck to the same friend group, how much social growth would we truly be experiencing? Sometimes we need our opinions challenged.
If you won’t go out alone, whether or not you just don’t like being alone, or for safety reasons, when do you establish new connections? Sure we all use dating applications to meet new potential romances, but if you want friends, where can we meet new people without the pressures of attraction and expectations that come with “dates”? Even stepping away from your group of friends to smoke, you will notice other people standing alone. It always leads to an introduction. “Hey, do you have a light?” Sound familiar?
Next time you go out with your friends, wander off for a minute, ask the girl across the bar if she wants to play you in a game of pool, ask the guy in the corner if he wants to join you guys at your booth. Sometimes we think meeting new people is harder than it actually is. We set ourselves up with the idea that it’s “weird” or “creepy” (as i’ve heard some girls say) to approach others in public and start a conversation. Most of the time, it’s not. Challenge yourself to talk to at least one new person once or twice a week when you’re out. Get out of your comfort zone. Seek adventure. Be spontaneous. You might end up surprising yourself.